Romance has definitely been on the rise over here in the Sprinkle house. The warm smolder would likely be an inferno now if it weren't for Jessie being sick. Some of my BIG PLANS have had to be curtailed to accommodate caring for my poor sad girl. She isn't running a fever but she is more lethargic then I have ever seen her. She is definitely worrying her mommy and daddy and if we see no improvement by later today we will be doctor bound.
Anyway, the reason I even bring up Jessie's health is that it actually provides a great example. It would be very easy, given this situation, for Rob and I to entirely ignore romance all together. I mean who could blame us, we have a sick child. Certainly Jessie's situation takes precedence when we consider having a date night out (not going to do that this week) but it does not mean that romance has to be curtailed completely. Actually I think the most romantic thing Rob had to say this week was "I love how well you take care of our girl." It feels good knowing that he notices things like that and that his concern for Jessie makes giving up our night out together inconsequential.
Instead of some of the bigger gestures I had fun considering, and can hold for another healthier time, I've had to rely on the little things which is possibly more to the point of my Romance Week. As I said in my Getting in the mood for Romance Post I am working on making romance a commonplace thing in my home. Part of the air we breathe so to speak. These little things, holding hands while watching a little television, taking time for that 30 second kiss, a cup of coffee shared in bed together have really made a difference. Rob has been acting in kind on his side of the equation bringing special groceries home for his house bound family, surprising me with flowers and those little shoulder rubs I mentioned in an earlier post when he walks by. The air has definitely shifted in a more romantic direction!
When Rob and I were dating we came across this bright orange boa at a flea market. Rob's and my favorite color is orange so we bought it on a lark. Rob joked that he would love to see me "dressed" in it sometime and from that point on I have left the boa or an orange feather laying around just to let him know that I had some romantic intention. The photos here don't show it very well but the boa was part of the larger flower path to the bed I surprised Rob with on our first anniversary. I have sneaked the boa in our suitcase for a surprise showing on vacation, sent photos of it to his phone and hung it mysteriously on the front door knob. This week I let Jessie play with it which netted some unexpected fun for her otherwise sad sick day and also resulted in orange feathers liberally strewn about the house which for us is very very romantic!We will not be sharing any big extravaganza this weekend but I've definitely realized I can keep romance alive even if the circumstances don't always call for it.
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