Check out the New Blog Here!

Click on "Bliss Habits" and let me know what you think!

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Cheating on My Community or My Great Blind Date!

COMMUNITY - Sharing, participation, and fellowship. [Community week starts here. Click for this week's Bliss Initiatives.]

I had planned to put a post about Facebook here today but I just had to tell you about my "cheating! blind date" yesterday. You see I have an amazing group of mommy friends with whom little J and I spend countless hours and adventures with but yesterday I decided to sneak off to one of our regular haunts with strangers! Who were these strangers? The Darling M. of we bloom here and her sweet child S.  

I already introduced M. to you guys when I found her delightful birdy project, which the girl and I immediately had to copy! So while not strangers entirely, and we have developed a nice on line friendship,  when we realized we live close enough to actually meet that is when it got positively titillating for me.

Our version made it to The Jungle!

You see, prior to meeting and marrying my Sweetie I was a fiendish an avid on line dater. I really enjoyed the anticipation of meeting... what would he be like? Is he as cute as his picture? Would he like me? Over the years I had some crazy dates but I never stopped enjoying the mystery of the "what ifs" that preceded every first date. It was always fun but in those cases where I had actually corresponded for a while and I had started to form real feelings there was an additional layer of trepidation. I felt like I already had a friend. Would, could meeting ruin that? Often it did. 

Well, meeting M. was a little bit like that kind of first date. Reading someone's blog for a while you start to think that you really do know them. I went into our planned meet up wondering if meeting might ruin what we already had? While reading her blog I had created her as the perfect, sensitive and kind parent I always hoped to be. She was smart, fanciful, had environmental values I share and seemed to be walking  her talk far more then I ever have. How the heck could this paragon of virtue actually want to be friends with me? But here she was agreeing to an actual meeting!

In the morning I was scurrying around performing my former pre-date rituals. You know, figuring out what to wear, making sure I took the time to blow dry my hair and since we were double dating after all, picking out a cute Naartje outfit for little J. I did all this entirely laughing at myself. M. might think I am bonkers if she ever found out (yet here I go telling her! lol)  I really was carrying on like I was going on a first date. And then the phone rang.

It was M. We had exchanged phone numbers in anticipation of the meet but we hadn't actually spoken. All of our logistics were handled by email. So of course, like every paranoid dater, I was certain she must be calling to cancel. I was certain she must have changed her mind and we would make a faint attempt at rescheduling but it wouldn't happen. OK can you say jaded? So some of my online dating experiences weren't all that great after all...

But NO!

All my paranoid thoughts leaping to crazy conclusions were immediately quashed. M. was calling to suggest a change in venue because the weather wasn't looking promising for our planned activity. We laughed together at how it always takes longer to get out the door then you think it will and set plans for 1:30ish and she would call again when she arrived. She sounded nice! This was getting more promising by the second!

J and I arrived about 30 minutes before M and S. Just long enough for my girl to make a dashing glance at every exhibit and for me to check the time 85 thousand times.  And then finally it was time! M and S were at the front door and we went to meet them.  

It was friend at first sight! 

We spent the rest of the afternoon thoroughly enjoying each other's company.  So much in fact, there was a few minutes when we lost track of our kids who had run off together, enjoying their new friendship too.  Sharing panic has a way of cementing a friendship so I know that we will enjoy future adventures together. You can read more about our day together over on M's blog here.

Do you have a favorite first date story? Have you ever met any of your online friends?

Next Post: Might actually be the one about Facebook!

My 13 bliss virtues are joy, order, creativity, passion, whimsy, serenity, inquiry, community, romance, gratitude, moxie, humility, and surprise.

This week we are studying Community. Next up is Romance Week.


  1. How wondeful for you and M to have found each other I hope this is a long and happy friendship.

  2. Kathy -- You are too funny! I'm glad we had such a fun "first date," too! Apologies for triggering your paranoia. I never had any intention of canceling. We'll just have to save our original plan for a sunny day... J.'s cute Naartijie outfit was perfect (it matched the Naartijie t-shirt S. was wearing...) A toast to more fun adventures (I won't worry about blow-drying my hair next time if you don't worry about yours.)

    P.S. Another thing we have in common... I know only one other person (besides myself ) who was an avid dater and liked to shop around prior to cementing the deal with a happy marriage. Every one else I know HATED dating. But, I just have to ask... Was I as cute as my picture?

  3. Oh, how fun! I have met a couple of online friends and it is so much like you described! LOL! And so far...always wicked fun!

    P.S. Did you just switch to disqus? Do you like it? I'm curious why you switched.

  4. "Wicked fun" indeed... I miss hearing that, folks on the west coast just don't say it!

    Yes, I added disqus because I wanted the comments to be more conversational. I talked about it in ”this post” post. What do you think? Good, easy to work with as a guest? I certainly don't want to annoy people but I like how we can comment on each other's comments. I would love to hear what you think!

  5. Thanks! And thank you for stopping by! I also thought you would like to know I really liked that recycled paper jewelry stand you featured over on your blog the other day. I don't make jewelry but the craft applications are endless... thanks for the inspiration!

  6. I'm so happy you had a great time meeting your online friend. I know firsthand how frightening that can be...when you know someone only online and then are filled with fear wondering if you will still like that living and breathing person. How do I know? I married my online friend! Seriously. It will be 13 years in October. :)

  7. i got to meet an online friend/penpal when i went to london in april. it was a blast! and i had known we got along before, but there's something cemented now as well :)
    hope to meet more in the future!

  8. sounds like you had a great time. stopping in from SITS. Enjoy your saturday.

  9. I haven't had a chance to meet any of my online friends yet. They seem to be placed all over the world so online is likely to be the only place we'll chat.

    Glad to hear your meeting went well.

    Happy SITS Saturday sharefest!

  10. PumpkinandPigletMay 22, 2010 at 1:17 AM

    Sounds like you had fun! I've been on a few dates with guys I met online before I met my husband and they were quite odd experiences, very often they were nothing like they had been online! I haven't had a chance to meet any of my bloggy friends yet but I'm hoping to change that soon.

    Happy Staurday Sharefst, hope you have a good weekend!

  11. PumpkinandPigletMay 22, 2010 at 1:18 AM

    Sorry, tired typing - that should say Happy Saturday Sharefest obviously!

  12. That is fun. Coming from SITS. Did you meet your husband on-line?

  13. I love how you can meet someone in the blog world and just know that you'd be friends in real life. I have yet to actually meet any bloggy friends, but i'd love to!

    Stopping in from the Lady Bloggers Tea Party - nice to "meet" you!

  14. Thanks so much for visiting! I'm off to check out your blog now!

  15. Thank you so much for stopping by!

    Meeting in person really does make a difference huh?!

  16. I met my Sweetie on line too!

  17. Happy SITS Saturday to you too!

    Woah! I just went to your blog... you seem to handle more in a single day then I do in a whole week!

  18. I definitely had some odd experiences while dating but the process led me to my Sweetie!

    I couldn't find your blog link to return the visit... can you send it to me?

  19. Thanks! Yes I did meet my Sweetie on line. On Craig's list in fact... although we both also had profiles at the time.

  20. Really nice to meet you too!

    The whole experience was terrific!!

  21. You definitely were as cute as your picture!

  22. PumpkinandPigletMay 22, 2010 at 12:30 PM

    Really sorry, I'm not sure what's happened there! You can find me at

    I'll have to go and check Disqus to see why my link isn't showing up!


Thank you "very so much" (the construct I stole from my 3 year old!) for your comments! I reply to every comment. I will ALWAYS reply over here on the blog so if you haven't heard from directly please do check back here. If you become a Disqus member you will be automatically updated via email as well!

Start Building YOUR Empire Today!

Empire Building Kit

Legal Stuff

Bottom Line: Don't steal. Stealing isn't nice and it is also illegal.

© Kathy Sprinkle and Everyday Kathy, 2009-2010. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Everyday Kathy with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Ben Franklin's 13 Virtues

  • 1. TEMPERANCE - Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
  • 2. SILENCE - Speak not what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
  • 3. ORDER - Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
  • 4. RESOLUTION - Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
  • 5. FRUGALITY - Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e. waste nothing.
  • 6. INDUSTRY - Lose no time; be always employ'd in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
  • 7. SINCERITY - Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and if you speak, speak accordingly.
  • 8. JUSTICE - Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
  • 9. MODERATION - Avoid extreams; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
  • 10. CLEANLINESS - Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths or habitation.
  • 11. TRANQUILITY - Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
  • 12. CHASTITY - Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or to the injury of your own or another's peace or reputation.
  • 13. HUMILITY - Imitate Jesus and Socrates.


Related Posts with Thumbnails