COMMUNITY - Sharing, participation, and fellowship. [Community week starts here. Click for this week's Bliss Initiatives.]
I had planned to put a post about Facebook here today but I just had to tell you about my "cheating! blind date" yesterday. You see I have an amazing group of mommy friends with whom little J and I spend countless hours and adventures with but yesterday I decided to sneak off to one of our regular haunts with strangers! Who were these strangers? The Darling M. of we bloom here and her sweet child S.
I already introduced M. to you guys when I found her delightful birdy project, which the girl and I immediately had to copy! So while not strangers entirely, and we have developed a nice on line friendship, when we realized we live close enough to actually meet that is when it got positively titillating for me.
You see, prior to meeting and marrying my Sweetie I was a fiendish an avid on line dater. I really enjoyed the anticipation of meeting... what would he be like? Is he as cute as his picture? Would he like me? Over the years I had some crazy dates but I never stopped enjoying the mystery of the "what ifs" that preceded every first date. It was always fun but in those cases where I had actually corresponded for a while and I had started to form real feelings there was an additional layer of trepidation. I felt like I already had a friend. Would, could meeting ruin that? Often it did.
Well, meeting M. was a little bit like that kind of first date. Reading someone's blog for a while you start to think that you really do know them. I went into our planned meet up wondering if meeting might ruin what we already had? While reading her blog I had created her as the perfect, sensitive and kind parent I always hoped to be. She was smart, fanciful, had environmental values I share and seemed to be walking her talk far more then I ever have. How the heck could this paragon of virtue actually want to be friends with me? But here she was agreeing to an actual meeting!
In the morning I was scurrying around performing my former pre-date rituals. You know, figuring out what to wear, making sure I took the time to blow dry my hair and since we were double dating after all, picking out a cute Naartje outfit for little J. I did all this entirely laughing at myself. M. might think I am bonkers if she ever found out (yet here I go telling her! lol) I really was carrying on like I was going on a first date. And then the phone rang.
It was M. We had exchanged phone numbers in anticipation of the meet but we hadn't actually spoken. All of our logistics were handled by email. So of course, like every paranoid dater, I was certain she must be calling to cancel. I was certain she must have changed her mind and we would make a faint attempt at rescheduling but it wouldn't happen. OK can you say jaded? So some of my online dating experiences weren't all that great after all...
But NO!
All my paranoid thoughts leaping to crazy conclusions were immediately quashed. M. was calling to suggest a change in venue because the weather wasn't looking promising for our planned activity. We laughed together at how it always takes longer to get out the door then you think it will and set plans for 1:30ish and she would call again when she arrived. She sounded nice! This was getting more promising by the second!
J and I arrived about 30 minutes before M and S. Just long enough for my girl to make a dashing glance at every exhibit and for me to check the time 85 thousand times. And then finally it was time! M and S were at the front door and we went to meet them.
It was friend at first sight!
We spent the rest of the afternoon thoroughly enjoying each other's company. So much in fact, there was a few minutes when we lost track of our kids who had run off together, enjoying their new friendship too. Sharing panic has a way of cementing a friendship so I know that we will enjoy future adventures together. You can read more about our day together over on M's blog here.
Do you have a favorite first date story? Have you ever met any of your online friends?
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My 13 bliss virtues are joy, order, creativity, passion, whimsy, serenity, inquiry, community, romance, gratitude, moxie, humility, and surprise.
This week we are studying Community. Next up is Romance Week.
How wondeful for you and M to have found each other I hope this is a long and happy friendship.
ReplyDeleteKathy -- You are too funny! I'm glad we had such a fun "first date," too! Apologies for triggering your paranoia. I never had any intention of canceling. We'll just have to save our original plan for a sunny day... J.'s cute Naartijie outfit was perfect (it matched the Naartijie t-shirt S. was wearing...) A toast to more fun adventures (I won't worry about blow-drying my hair next time if you don't worry about yours.)
ReplyDeleteP.S. Another thing we have in common... I know only one other person (besides myself ) who was an avid dater and liked to shop around prior to cementing the deal with a happy marriage. Every one else I know HATED dating. But, I just have to ask... Was I as cute as my picture?
Oh, how fun! I have met a couple of online friends and it is so much like you described! LOL! And so far...always wicked fun!
ReplyDeleteP.S. Did you just switch to disqus? Do you like it? I'm curious why you switched.
"Wicked fun" indeed... I miss hearing that, folks on the west coast just don't say it!
ReplyDeleteYes, I added disqus because I wanted the comments to be more conversational. I talked about it in ”this post” post. What do you think? Good, easy to work with as a guest? I certainly don't want to annoy people but I like how we can comment on each other's comments. I would love to hear what you think!
Thanks! And thank you for stopping by! I also thought you would like to know I really liked that recycled paper jewelry stand you featured over on your blog the other day. I don't make jewelry but the craft applications are endless... thanks for the inspiration!
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy you had a great time meeting your online friend. I know firsthand how frightening that can be...when you know someone only online and then are filled with fear wondering if you will still like that living and breathing person. How do I know? I married my online friend! Seriously. It will be 13 years in October. :)
ReplyDeletei got to meet an online friend/penpal when i went to london in april. it was a blast! and i had known we got along before, but there's something cemented now as well :)
ReplyDeletehope to meet more in the future!
sounds like you had a great time. stopping in from SITS. Enjoy your saturday. dianeswords.wordspress.com
ReplyDeleteI haven't had a chance to meet any of my online friends yet. They seem to be placed all over the world so online is likely to be the only place we'll chat.
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear your meeting went well.
Happy SITS Saturday sharefest!
Sounds like you had fun! I've been on a few dates with guys I met online before I met my husband and they were quite odd experiences, very often they were nothing like they had been online! I haven't had a chance to meet any of my bloggy friends yet but I'm hoping to change that soon.
ReplyDeleteHappy Staurday Sharefst, hope you have a good weekend!
Sorry, tired typing - that should say Happy Saturday Sharefest obviously!
ReplyDeleteThat is fun. Coming from SITS. Did you meet your husband on-line?
ReplyDeleteI love how you can meet someone in the blog world and just know that you'd be friends in real life. I have yet to actually meet any bloggy friends, but i'd love to!
ReplyDeleteStopping in from the Lady Bloggers Tea Party - nice to "meet" you!
Thanks so much for visiting! I'm off to check out your blog now!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for stopping by!
ReplyDeleteMeeting in person really does make a difference huh?!
I met my Sweetie on line too!
ReplyDeleteHappy SITS Saturday to you too!
ReplyDeleteWoah! I just went to your blog... you seem to handle more in a single day then I do in a whole week!
I definitely had some odd experiences while dating but the process led me to my Sweetie!
ReplyDeleteI couldn't find your blog link to return the visit... can you send it to me?
Thanks! Yes I did meet my Sweetie on line. On Craig's list in fact... although we both also had Match.com profiles at the time.
ReplyDeleteReally nice to meet you too!
ReplyDeleteThe whole experience was terrific!!
You definitely were as cute as your picture!
ReplyDeleteReally sorry, I'm not sure what's happened there! You can find me at www.pumpkinandpiglet.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteI'll have to go and check Disqus to see why my link isn't showing up!