tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6540925735804983279.post6167887648963415318..comments2023-10-15T03:30:57.686-07:00Comments on Everyday Bliss: Community reluctance discoveredEveryday Kathyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05463498796184060882noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6540925735804983279.post-2041927431446330162010-02-10T09:58:18.303-08:002010-02-10T09:58:18.303-08:00I've always admired the way you honor what is ...I've always admired the way you honor what is best for you Jaye. You do a really nice job of balancing what you need vs. want in your life. <br /><br />I totally agree about your Facebook observations! I am so glad to have it!Everyday Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05463498796184060882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6540925735804983279.post-26933770483364305472010-02-09T20:55:43.758-08:002010-02-09T20:55:43.758-08:00This is a great post. I know what you mean about w...This is a great post. I know what you mean about wanting to be unavailable. I really had to think about this, practice for awhile and then realize that situations, my feelings and things evolve. First I tried to decide what things I liked to do and wanted to do (do you hear the screaming about quiltmaking going on??). Next I thought a lot about the things that I really felt obligated to do. I looked at them from a lot of different angles and got rid of the ones that didn't fit my "plan." With the others, I decided how much time I was willing to give to them. I also looked at the groups in which I was involved. I looked at what I was getting and what I was giving. Those relationships aren't always equal, but in some way they should equal out in the end. I got rid of some. For the others, more rules. One rule I have is that I only participate in fun events. I have enough un-fun activities during the week; I don't need to add extras. I tell people straight out that I am not not going to an event, because it doesn't sound fun. I say it nicely. ;-) I also plan some events that I would enjoy attending. Finally, I take a breath and think about my answer before I say yes.<br /><br />FB has really helped. I can participate in a lot more friends' lives because of FB. I think it creates a greater connection even if it doesn't replace the entire relationship.<br />xxJayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06285727704486805109noreply@blogger.com